EGO

What is ego ? - Self esteem or Self importance ?

Ego is "I"...it is the only way how I distinguish myself from anyone else. 

In this Ego cycle...I wonder.

Is it that important that you are okay with losing yourself against someone else?

When do you decide to give up your ego?

Where do you get the courage to kill the ego for love and to be loved?

What makes you okay to be killed by ego and stay in illusion and pain?

How long will it take to come to realisation? 

Ego is only for physical body and mind....it is not the language for souls.

When you are a part of same soul, ego is non-existent, it dissolves, it disappears. 

To experience the soul connection, it is necessary to shed the damn ego and embrace the unconditional love.(I wish..)

In this life or another...

I hope after all this time, in this life or another..

when our eyes meet 

you still remember when it all started..

I hope after all this time, in this life or another..

when you see me

we forget why we parted ..

I hope after all this time, in this life or another..

when we breath the same air

the world stops running like always 

I hope after all this time, in this life or another..

when you feel my hug 

all our hurt is healed 

I hope after all this time, in this life or another..

when our paths cross again

we can still love each other 💔

Let go !

Its hard to let go because

- it really hurts

- you cared 

- it is scary 

- because you thought you ll never have to 

- because you created a story with a different ending

- because your reality feels incomplete

- it mattered

- it feels unfair

- you miss the version of yourself that you were

- it was left unfinished

- you have things left unsaid

- it felt like home

B U T ...

Sometimes you have to let go..

let go of the people..

let go of the places..

let go of all the memories..

let go of all the broken things..

let go of all what you used to be ...

let go of pain...

let go of suffering ...

let go so that you can save yourself 

let go of everything so that you can be what you are meant to be..

At the end of the day

The right person will know how to hold your love.

The right person will not leave you when its rough.

You will not have to quiet the way you care.

You will never feel like you dont want to share.

You will never feel sorry for loving too much.

You will never doubt the intentions and such.

One day you will be found and met

One day all the confusions will shut.

One day all the fights will have a deeper meaning.

One day you will be someone's favorite thing.

The right people will always stay 

The wrong people do not matter any way.

But...!

My soul was stirred and heart was touched.

The gift of love that I may have deserved.

You shook my existence and took me along

But, in your heart, I will always belong.

Nostalgia of all the happiness, good times and laughter

Will never be shadowed by this distress and disaster

I so miss sharing with you my deepest fear and every pain

But, your scent... however has always kept me sane.

Pondering on every single reason, why I fell apart 

Loosing grip on life, holding my wounded  heart.

Even though, every single hope scares me to death 

But, I still cherish the day our eyes met.

Is time really the healer?

Time can give you only time and nothing else.

It will give you time to get used to of the new conditions.

It will give you time to build more memories over the past painful memories so that you can have some courage to not be stuck in the past.

It will give you time to process, analyse and reason with yourself about your situation and that can bring you peace.

It will give you time for circumstances to change.

It will give you time for mindsets to change.

It will give you time to forgive yourself and forgive others.

It will give you time to make necessary changes.

It will give you time start again but with experiences.

It will give you time to be prepared for the future.

It will give you time to explore and feel the fresh air.

With the special gift of time, healing is inevitable.

But how quickly you want to be healed will depend on what you do with time. Maybe in reality, you'll grieve forever or not get over the loss of a bond. But, you ll heal and you ll rebuild yourself may be as a different person with a hole in it.

Seniority of Emotions

The truth is that we will never be able to experience other person's emotions irrespective of any amount of love, connection, understanding or communication, especially in a conflicting situation. There is always a  difference between what is being told vs what is being heard or understood (Thanks to our mind, heart, circumstances or energy around us)

Any conflicting situation will ask for your actions and reactions. As a human, this reaction is for yourself & to yourself, with the intention to protect your own self. 

The first and foremost is to make them aware of your emotional state but IRL we will always place our emotions over others.

To prevent being in a reactive situation, Curb your expectations.

A lot of arguments in relationships stem from one person’s expectations of the other. As long as you put high expectations on another person, you are bound to be disappointed. Remember that the other person cannot, cannot protect your energy over theirs.

They do not know what you expect from them. Even if they did, they have no obligation to obey your commands. You only have control over yourself, not other people. So while it is okay to have high expectations of yourself, doing it for things out of your control is only going to lead to disappointment. In that moment you feel seniority of emotions going away. It can happen because - 

1. Blame - You blame them for not reading your mind.

2. Submission - You submit to their approach which does not align with yours.

3. Lack of Confidence - You have no confidence to challenge their reaction.

In all the above scenarios, you feel the your seniority of emotions going away leading to disappointment if it happens after 

To remedy a reactive situation, Do not let it affect you.

When you know the reason of loosing seniority of your emotions, it becomes much easier to close the loop and get peace. It helps you decide what to go after and if its worth it. It helps you decide the boundary for yourself and work on yourself rather than expecting the other person to "fix" or "change" It helps you to take the control and move on with a conscious path.

In the end, everyone is going through things so forgive even without getting an apology. 

Forever

Emotional Attachment

When we are attached to someone or something, we have the fear of losing the person or the relation, and we think that it will not last forever.

Some of our attachments can be good for us but some can affect us mentally.

Any emotional attachment will start as fondness and belief in the happiness that it brings. 

But, if we are careless, some emotional attachments can control our lives, altering the way we think and act. 

Decisions help us to think clearly and make good choices for not allowing our emotions to rule our lives.

You can do this by observing yourself, accepting change, lowering expectations and with self correcting behavior.

But associating the idea of happiness with another person can lead to an illusion which is surrounded by expectations and that it will last forever.

The harsh truth in the fact that nothing lasts forever and there are circumstances which are not always in your control can help us to be more realistic and more appreciative of the present.

But above all these fleeting and temporary relations and bonds, life brings you those anchors in life without them life is unimaginable. 

Hold them tight and make them your forever. 💔

"Pata hai, yahan se bahut door, galat aur sahi ke paar, ek maidan hai, main vahaan milunga tujhe."

- Rockstar (2011)